Do you often feel like the lack of approval or waiting for feedback holds you back?
As of late, I’ve noticed the amount of feedback requested in different Facebook Groups I’m a member of. People ask for other’s opinions on everything, from book covers to website design colors to how to deal with work situations and more.
When it all comes down to it, people are asking others how to live their lives. And how to make the best, next step that moves them forward. I’ve seen that people enjoy crowdsourcing their ideas, choices and decisions.
At the end of the day, we’re all seeking approval from someone or something. We all need people to lift us up, encourage us, inspire us and make us feel secure in our choices.
Things only go downhill when we’re seeking approval from the wrong people. In groups, it can be hard to know who to trust, and whether you should go with the opinion of one person or the other. After all opinions are just that, opinions that can be biased based on background, experience and beliefs.
In fact, I was thinking about this while watching reruns of my favorite televisions show “How I Met Your Mother.” In Season 8, Episode 7 each character discusses their “Stamp of Approval” and whether it’s one they can trust.
- Marshall has a “tramp stamp” which means he gives his stamp of approval to anyone and everyone. Because of that, it’s essentially worthless and you can not trust him!
- Ted is a “piggyback stamper” which means he’s a copycat. He approves things others have already approved.
When you’re giving advice to those who are seeking approval, or if you’re in the hot seat waiting for approval, make sure you know where their advice is coming from.
While it’s great to ask for feedback and opinions, when it comes to crowdsourcing your next decision, make sure it’s coming from a reliable source. One who knows you and you can trust, and more importantly someone who has your best interest in mind.
Always remember, there are the pessimistic individuals in this world, and there are the optimists. Even when you’re making the hard choices, don’t forget to open your mind and allow yourself to dream big!
Great things happen when you choose to think outside of your limitations.
After all, the people who do great things are doing so because they didn’t live safely.
They took the risk and made it happen.
Take a chance. Live boldly.
What risks have you taken in the past that turned out for the best?