Do you know what you really want out of life? Or do you feel stuck, trapped and unsure about what you’re doing and where you’re going?
You see, life is this beautiful time map, but it’s empty, unused, and unfulfilled. As you go through life, every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every year, the map is filled with what you’ve done with your life. The good, the bad, the ugly, the hopeful, and the beautiful.
Then, you have your dreams. Those wild, imaginative impossibilities. The things you REALLY want to do.
Maybe, when you were a child, you were quite clear on those dreams. After all, I knew I wanted to be a nurse, travel the world, enjoy being single, write a bestselling book series, and live on a farm with a ton of animals.
Now that I’m older some of those dreams got tossed out the window. I’ll never be a nurse (shudder!) and I certainly don’t see myself living on a farm with lots of animals, as a matter of fact, I’m not a huge fan of animals. Some are pretty cool and some of them are even beautiful, but most of the time I think they should mind their own business.
As I grow and learn, my dreams continue to morph and expand. Yes, I still will write a bestselling book series and travel the world. I’m also an entrepreneur and in love with living life on my own terms.
So, how do you discover what you REALLY want out of life?
I like to do the following steps to help me get clear on where I am now versus where I am going.
There’s a quote by Stephen Covey “begin with the end in mind” and that’s exactly what I’d like you to do.
Take a moment to step outside, away from the noise, and find some time to watch the sunrise or sunset with a warm cup of coffee (or hot tea if you prefer!). It’s often when we get away from it all and are alone with our thoughts, we experience clarity.
Think of all the things that you’re worried about, upset about, and unhappy about, and find the idea solution. Notice, I didn’t say anything about being realistic. Let yourself dream for a time.
Next, think about all your childhood dreams and what you wanted to be when you grew up. Are you those things? Were those dreams based off of someone else’s ideas? Maybe your dad was a lawyer, and you want to be a lawyer now to be just like him. Maybe you mom started her own company, and that’s what you want to do. Are your dreams based on pleasing someone you love? Or are they actually YOUR dreams.
This is where I believe we get bogged down. It’s much easier to live a life someone tells you to live, instead of living the life you actually want to live. It’s much easier to get up every day and waltz into an office instead of hustling at home or a co-working office. It’s much easier to marry the person you like but you’re not in love with for fear of starting over. It’s much easier to hide behind excuses than to make things happen.
You see, getting what you really want out of life isn’t a simple walk in the park, but before you begin, you have to discover what you want.
So take some time to get quiet and think of all the moments that bring you joy. Think of the times when you’re perfectly happy, and if you just keep doing that one thing, you could keep going forever, whether it brought in money or not.
Think of the times in life when you felt the most hopeful, the most uplifted. Go back and remember, go back and find those moments. Don’t repress those memories, don’t think of excuses, don’t think of income, just allow yourself to dream.
Start with the end in mind. And once you can see the end, it’s time to begin.